Do your parents hate you? Or view you as a failure?

NCRcel

NCRcel

Wishing for nuclear winter.
Nov 29, 2020
185
My dad still loves me, but my mother it seems is only going through the motions at this point. Deep inside, she 100% hates me and views me as the runt of the litter. I can observe this by how she treats me, and how she treats my siblings. She seems very cold and distant with me, and never reaches out to interact with me at all. While my brother and sister (who are both physically attractive and succeeding in life) are treated very warmly by her.

She always calls them to see how they're doing, takes them out to dinners and other social events without even inviting me, ect, ect. There is no doubt in my mind she is ashamed of me, and wishes I hadn't been born. Actually, society in general probably wishes I would just die as well. But it particularly hurts coming from someone who is supposed to have your back unconditionally.

What about you guys? Does your family view you as a failure? Are they ashamed of you?
 
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Abi No

Hi
Nov 26, 2020
781
When my dad saw the anime figures he just gave me the flouride stare
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kodoku

kodoku

NEET
Dec 6, 2020
45
i make as much money as them and they care about me but I'm still an antisocial asshole
 
comfy

comfy

NEET
Dec 7, 2020
320
Most likely. We never talk despite living in the same house
 
Copexodius Maximus

Copexodius Maximus

Intergalactic Shitposting Abomination
Dec 2, 2020
1,701
My dad still loves me, but my mother it seems is only going through the motions at this point. Deep inside, she 100% hates me and views me as the runt of the litter. I can observe this by how she treats me, and how she treats my siblings. She seems very cold and distant with me, and never reaches out to interact with me at all. While my brother and sister (who are both physically attractive and succeeding in life) are treated very warmly by her.

She always calls them to see how they're doing, takes them out to dinners and other social events without even inviting me, ect, ect. There is no doubt in my mind she is ashamed of me, and wishes I hadn't been born. Actually, society in general probably wishes I would just die as well. But it particularly hurts coming from someone who is supposed to have your back unconditionally.

What about you guys? Does your family view you as a failure? Are they ashamed of you?
Try getting closer with your father then, no point of wasting your time with your mom.
I would purposefully ignore her and avoid her as much as possible, and talk to the dad instead.
 
Zargrim

Zargrim

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Dec 3, 2020
1,165
I live with them and right now I have a great relationship with them. My father has dementia and is pretty much incapacitated so I do what I can to help my mother take care of him.
 
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Guest

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Probably. Parents expect things from their children before they're even born. I think it's absurd to hate your child for not living up to your expectations; the child is not at fault for being unable or unwilling to meet them.
 
NeverEndingWinter

NeverEndingWinter

God bless the coffin they carry me off in
Dec 7, 2020
4,291
Not really. My mom just constanlty pressurizes me to go back to studying sometimes. It usually happens when her siblings start boasting about the professions of their children and I think it makes her feel uneasy that I'm such a huge failure. I don't blame her but the thought of being in a classroom setting makes me nervous as fuck tbh.
 
jaded jabble

jaded jabble

NEET
Nov 30, 2020
3,671
My dad still loves me, but my mother it seems is only going through the motions at this point. Deep inside, she 100% hates me and views me as the runt of the litter. I can observe this by how she treats me, and how she treats my siblings. She seems very cold and distant with me, and never reaches out to interact with me at all. While my brother and sister (who are both physically attractive and succeeding in life) are treated very warmly by her.

She always calls them to see how they're doing, takes them out to dinners and other social events without even inviting me, ect, ect. There is no doubt in my mind she is ashamed of me, and wishes I hadn't been born. Actually, society in general probably wishes I would just die as well. But it particularly hurts coming from someone who is supposed to have your back unconditionally.

What about you guys? Does your family view you as a failure? Are they ashamed of you?
they still have hope, its over for me
 
Raguel

Raguel

NEET
Nov 27, 2020
299
My dad still loves me, but my mother it seems is only going through the motions at this point. Deep inside, she 100% hates me and views me as the runt of the litter. I can observe this by how she treats me, and how she treats my siblings. She seems very cold and distant with me, and never reaches out to interact with me at all. While my brother and sister (who are both physically attractive and succeeding in life) are treated very warmly by her.

She always calls them to see how they're doing, takes them out to dinners and other social events without even inviting me, ect, ect. There is no doubt in my mind she is ashamed of me, and wishes I hadn't been born. Actually, society in general probably wishes I would just die as well. But it particularly hurts coming from someone who is supposed to have your back unconditionally.

What about you guys? Does your family view you as a failure? Are they ashamed of you?
It’s sad ngl. While reading I kept picturing how you might want it to be like in a best world.
1. Sees you not as rubbish, but normal. Preferably a greek god.
2. Constantly reaches to comfort you so you don’t feel lonely.
3. Performs accurate management to ensure she invests time to siblings and you in equally calculated amount.
4. No more of these backdoor wicked meetings with siblings, ya heard.
5. Makes sure to prove you how everybody knows that she’s proud of you, doesn’t wish you to die, but to have a 100 years of prosperous vitality

See that is called parenting. Jfl at mommies these days
 
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TheBasedNeet

TheBasedNeet

NEET
Dec 7, 2020
118
im honestly looking forward to my dad retiring in a few years, we can both LDAR and wait for death together
 
Aedra

Aedra

Funeral Attendant
Nov 26, 2020
1,369
No. It's just one parent in my case though. I don't have a mother.
 
Fabio

Fabio

Incels
Dec 4, 2020
8,667
Maybe, its hard to tell. I think they talk behind my back, and treat me different in person and aren't honest to me.
 
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Aleexx

NEET
Dec 11, 2020
3
I used to not get along at all with my parents and we kept fighting and saying I was useless and that I had failed. It is not like that anymore, but I realized that even if it was like that and they kept calling me that way, it matters how I feel about myself and what I think about myself and not others. You know better than anyone who you are.
 
milkistermoo

milkistermoo

NEET
Dec 2, 2020
2,707
They don't know anything about me or my life, and they don't care enough to find out. It's always been this way, I have to put on a mask to talk to them too. I wish I atleast had a deep and honest and comfortable relationship with my parents but oh well.
 
Asylum Patient

Asylum Patient

I wish I was Dutch
May 13, 2021
2,044
My parents have always been two great human beings who loved and supported me, which I am very thankful for.
I think they also had high hopes for me, as I always got good grades during my school days and also finished university.

They are probably dissapointed that I still live at home because I am unable to hold down a job. I still have a great relationship with my mother but my father has changed. In the last years he became a drinker because of decades of being in a job that he actually hates. He doesn't talk to me that much anymore like in the past.

I still can't believe how my life turned out. It doesn't even feel real anymore, like a cruel nightmare, like a sick joke.
 
auruuhudei

auruuhudei

The Notorious N.E.E.T.
Jun 28, 2021
7
My parents still like me and see me as a do-no-wrong. My mother has even said she wouldn't mind me living in her basement for the rest of my life.

It just hurts more though. I just keep letting them down. I keep fucking up and they still have faith, I still have to deal with them having hope in me and completely falling flat on my face. Why can't they just lose hope in me? Why can't I just no longer have to worry about disappointing them, because they wouldn't be able to be more disappointed in me?

I just want to finally let them down. I'm sick of constantly failing them and feeling like they're disappointed over and over.

Maybe I'm just a twat who takes this stuff for granted though, after all, fuck me right???
 
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