NEETmax2TheBrimBoyo
Maximum OverNEET
- Dec 9, 2020
- 110
Just wondering what everyone's experience was with incels they actually know irl. They don't have to view themselves as incel or even know anything about incel culture, just have to fit the definition. Personally I know 4, all from work, and 1 of them I know quite well.
All 4 of them fit the 'typical' description of an incel. You know, the stuff incels meme about ("just take a shower bro"). I was going to write descriptions of them but noticed a ton of shit overlapped so instead here are 4 things that apply to each and every single one of them:
1. lack of hygiene
Idk why but they just don't take their hygiene seriously. I'm not talking about a lack of style or questionable grooming (which can be interpreted as poor hygiene due to the reverse halo effect), I am talking about objectively bad hygiene such as smelling poorly, not taking enough showers, not washing their clothes enough etc.
2. physically unattractive (i.e. short/fat/unattractive face/balding severely/etc.)
I mean go figure
3. unusual sense of style/fashion that doesn't look good
Honestly I'm not even mad at this because I get it. Because they are unattractive they want to (subconsciously?) fill some sort of niche because if they'd dress/groom normally they'd be competing with all of the chads and chadlites whom also dress normally, but by making their hair/style/outfits 'weird' they are essentially making themselves more 'rare' and 'unusual', so if there happens to be a girl that's specifically attracted to their rare and unusual style they'll have more of a shot with them. That's my theory at least. If you want to compete in a sport but you're not very athletic you'd be crazy to try your hand at something like soccer which is extremely popular all over the world, but if you try an obscure sport with way fewer people participating you may do better. Same principle I suppose. I haven't actually seen this work though, guess there's no 'cheatcode' for being successful in dating while unattractive. I do think just a 'normal' style would make them look better.
4. elitist and overly talkative about their obscure hobbies/interests
One of them is really into painting warhammer miniatures (specifically the painting), and when we were with a big group grabbing drinks after a company event he got talking to a female colleague (company is quite big and she worked in a diff department so they hadn't met yet). I had the joy of witnessing this interaction from start to finish as I sat across from him and the girl and it turns out the girl was into miniature painting as well, specifically for dollhouses, and she'd do that to make some money on the side. You'd think this would be a great match but he ended up making snarky comments and belittling her type of painting and I could just see her get angry until she excused herself and didn't come back (she joined a different part of the table). Best thing is right after she left he kinda scoffed and turned towards me and went 'can you believe that? she thought her painting took the same skill as mine' and then went on to explain to me for about 10 minutes as to why his painting was superior. On another occasion one of the other incels asked me to read a convo he had with a girl on tinder to see 'where he went wrong', now some background info is that he's really into horror movies but again, is overly elitist about a very specific subset of horror movies, and the convo on tinder started with 'that's so cool you like horror too, what's your fav movie?' (THE FUCKING GIRL OPENED HIM BTW) and the convo turns into him criticizing her taste in horror movies and just going on and on about obscure details and horror-movie stuff until she ghosted him. Stuff like this. All 4 do this.
5. extreme hypergamy
No real explanation needed I think but they are just insanely picky when it comes to a girl's looks but they themselves are like 4s at best, probably lower. I try to help them out sometimes and I'll notice someone being friendly to them and be like 'hey she's cute isn't she' and guess what? She's never cute: "Nah, not my type", even though the girl is an easy 5/10 or maybe 6/10 and probably more attractive than them comparatively.
6. clueless, passive
At some point a Brazilian intern joined our company and one of the incels took a liking to them. Or well, everyone kinda did lol. Tbh she was extremely cute, like an easy 7.5/10, maybe higher. I was gonna shoot my shot but one of the incels was already up in her DMs apparently. He shared the messages with me enthusiastically and to my surprise it seemed really positive. Idk why she was interested in him, he doesn't seem to have any redeeming qualities (from a girl's POV that is, I liked hanging out with him personally). He went on a date, which surprisingly also went well (this is the same guy from the miniature Warhammer painting), and the next date was at her place where she'd make him dinner. So next day I ask him how it went and she made him pancakes and it was delicious and then they ended up cuddling on the couch watching Netflix. So I ask him if there was any action and he was like nah. "Did you make a move?" Nah. "Why not?" Idk. Then she(!) suggested he stay the night, which he did, but he slept on the couch. I asked him why. He said she(!) said he could join her in bed but he replied with that he thought it was 'gentlemanly' to sleep on the couch. She ghosted him after that btw and he was upset and confused as to why she did that lol. There's similar stories from the others.
All 4 of them fit the 'typical' description of an incel. You know, the stuff incels meme about ("just take a shower bro"). I was going to write descriptions of them but noticed a ton of shit overlapped so instead here are 4 things that apply to each and every single one of them:
1. lack of hygiene
Idk why but they just don't take their hygiene seriously. I'm not talking about a lack of style or questionable grooming (which can be interpreted as poor hygiene due to the reverse halo effect), I am talking about objectively bad hygiene such as smelling poorly, not taking enough showers, not washing their clothes enough etc.
2. physically unattractive (i.e. short/fat/unattractive face/balding severely/etc.)
I mean go figure
3. unusual sense of style/fashion that doesn't look good
Honestly I'm not even mad at this because I get it. Because they are unattractive they want to (subconsciously?) fill some sort of niche because if they'd dress/groom normally they'd be competing with all of the chads and chadlites whom also dress normally, but by making their hair/style/outfits 'weird' they are essentially making themselves more 'rare' and 'unusual', so if there happens to be a girl that's specifically attracted to their rare and unusual style they'll have more of a shot with them. That's my theory at least. If you want to compete in a sport but you're not very athletic you'd be crazy to try your hand at something like soccer which is extremely popular all over the world, but if you try an obscure sport with way fewer people participating you may do better. Same principle I suppose. I haven't actually seen this work though, guess there's no 'cheatcode' for being successful in dating while unattractive. I do think just a 'normal' style would make them look better.
4. elitist and overly talkative about their obscure hobbies/interests
One of them is really into painting warhammer miniatures (specifically the painting), and when we were with a big group grabbing drinks after a company event he got talking to a female colleague (company is quite big and she worked in a diff department so they hadn't met yet). I had the joy of witnessing this interaction from start to finish as I sat across from him and the girl and it turns out the girl was into miniature painting as well, specifically for dollhouses, and she'd do that to make some money on the side. You'd think this would be a great match but he ended up making snarky comments and belittling her type of painting and I could just see her get angry until she excused herself and didn't come back (she joined a different part of the table). Best thing is right after she left he kinda scoffed and turned towards me and went 'can you believe that? she thought her painting took the same skill as mine' and then went on to explain to me for about 10 minutes as to why his painting was superior. On another occasion one of the other incels asked me to read a convo he had with a girl on tinder to see 'where he went wrong', now some background info is that he's really into horror movies but again, is overly elitist about a very specific subset of horror movies, and the convo on tinder started with 'that's so cool you like horror too, what's your fav movie?' (THE FUCKING GIRL OPENED HIM BTW) and the convo turns into him criticizing her taste in horror movies and just going on and on about obscure details and horror-movie stuff until she ghosted him. Stuff like this. All 4 do this.
5. extreme hypergamy
No real explanation needed I think but they are just insanely picky when it comes to a girl's looks but they themselves are like 4s at best, probably lower. I try to help them out sometimes and I'll notice someone being friendly to them and be like 'hey she's cute isn't she' and guess what? She's never cute: "Nah, not my type", even though the girl is an easy 5/10 or maybe 6/10 and probably more attractive than them comparatively.
6. clueless, passive
At some point a Brazilian intern joined our company and one of the incels took a liking to them. Or well, everyone kinda did lol. Tbh she was extremely cute, like an easy 7.5/10, maybe higher. I was gonna shoot my shot but one of the incels was already up in her DMs apparently. He shared the messages with me enthusiastically and to my surprise it seemed really positive. Idk why she was interested in him, he doesn't seem to have any redeeming qualities (from a girl's POV that is, I liked hanging out with him personally). He went on a date, which surprisingly also went well (this is the same guy from the miniature Warhammer painting), and the next date was at her place where she'd make him dinner. So next day I ask him how it went and she made him pancakes and it was delicious and then they ended up cuddling on the couch watching Netflix. So I ask him if there was any action and he was like nah. "Did you make a move?" Nah. "Why not?" Idk. Then she(!) suggested he stay the night, which he did, but he slept on the couch. I asked him why. He said she(!) said he could join her in bed but he replied with that he thought it was 'gentlemanly' to sleep on the couch. She ghosted him after that btw and he was upset and confused as to why she did that lol. There's similar stories from the others.
